PAIN & MISERY A HIDDEN GIFT
I dedicate this one to my "VR buddy", BlondePoppy,
Who, while suffering with her problem, may have wanted or
needed a light at the end of a tunnel.
My hope is that others may benefit from a different perspective as I hope she will when she reads this.
All of us have obstacles, hurdles and pitfalls in our lives blocking, and preventing us from living the kind or types of lives we hoped to or wish to live.
SELF INDUCED PROBLEMS
Most of us have but to stare into a mirror to see our greatest enemy and largest most prominent and ever-present obstacle in our lives…. ourselves. This is the category I fall into, and all the damage, pain and misery associated with my problems in life were my own fault. For some it is the eating disorder, the drinking addiction, the smoking addiction, sexual addictions, drugs, anger problems the list of self created distractions and obstacles grows longer every day and our "Nanny State" is happy to label each new personal character weakness as a new medical conditions so many of us are now hopeless hypochondriacs.
I believe in personal responsibility, so those who are their own worst problems are responsible for their solution also.
FATE RELATED PROBLEMS
However there are some of us, a very small number who must deal with serious problems not of their creation. These few in most cases were dealt a hard hand to play in their lives and are struggling to make the most of it when they can. This is the category my dear friend BlondePoppy falls into. I will not go into great detail on her plight if you are really interested in her, then you need to be on her friends list, not reading my blogs.
The short version is she suffers great pain, suffering and severe dysfunction on occasion from a medical problem she has. Unlike alcohol abuse, drug addiction….she did not do this to herself and was just the unlucky recipient of fate to bear this cross on her own.
While it is true that some of us live with this dark cloud following us as we travel through life, we may suffer the pain, the misery, the disappointment and limitations this problem places on our life, what most of us miss is the "hidden gift" within the problem.
Renaldus Maximus was not only a great president and leader but a eternal optimist who constantly looked for the good in a situation. No matter how bad it looked Ronald Reagan could find good in what others might have missed.
SILVER LINING
My dear friend Shell, and others, I encourage you to look for the silver lining in this cloud, because you have this serious problem and it causes so much pain, you can better appreciate the life you have when not in pain. You can better appreciate how precious your family and friends are. You can better enjoy and value the people and moments in life that are precious and valuable that others choose to ignore.
If you make the most of your life when you can and love, value and appreciate your family and friends, in a way your problem can be a gift of realization. No matter how you may view yourself or pity yourself you can and need to become the light at the end of your loved ones dark tunnel. We are all unique, precious and no matter how low we may fall, there will never be a replacement for any of us. We are unique, therefore priceless, so if that means accepting the bad side of our lives, then we need to demand the good side also.
Most people I run across have never had a serious problem in their lives that made them conscious of how fragile or precious life really is. Most of those "normal people" live in a cloud, a funk, they never reach consciousness. They stumble through life like a mind-numbed zombie. They are the majority, like sheep aimless, thoughtless and without drive or focus. It is not them who will be remembered long after they are gone. I do not waste my time or any part of my life on someone who lives their life on autopilot.
I value those who interact with me on a conscious level. Those who make me laugh, those who bring me to tears with their passions, problems or selfless acts, those who share their lives, those who respect their friends, who are not petty and are open and honest about who they are and how they view you. If you are like that that you are one of the few leading this culture and we need you wide awake at all times to make this life worth living.
Life is interactive, not a spectator sport!
Get off your ass and interact with those you care about and those you love.
Spend a day with your family & friends white water rafting, visit a range that rents machineguns on their range (really fun) go to the lake, learn to SCUBA dive, go fishing, go to a Air show, visit Natural History museums, go to National Parks for the day, hiking, camping, vacation with family & friends and take pictures……create some memories, that will mean something to you. Some good times you can enjoy and later reflect on.
Live what Socrates deemed as "a live worth living"